Thursday, September 16, 2010

Take Your Mama Out All Night

[via thievesinlaw]

 No.   Noooooo.  No.


Just when you thought you were safe, 'cause I live in Chicago now and he lives in Seattle....


Jason Is Overly Interested.

Q:  Ok, so Krista, when I watch lesbian porn, there's usually a scene where the two girls do some scissoring.  But you've told me a million times that sex with the ladies doesn't look anything like porn sex.  
So while I was watching the scissoring happen on the movie, I started wondering...do lesbians actually do that?  Do girls scissor?  
'Cause it must be kinda awkward.  Don't get me wrong, I very much want the answer to be yes, here.


A:  Christ, it's early.  Haven't even had coffee yet.  Calling me at 8 in the freakin' morning.  Who does that?  


Never talk about scissoring before noon, that's what I say.

Hell, it's noon somewhere.

Jason, you have a valid question, here.  You want to know about scissoring.  



Homos, here at Effing Dykes, I get a fair amount of mail. (Write to me! effingdykes@gmail.com and p.s. I like pictures.)  


I try to answer most of it, but sometimes it takes me a real long time.

However!  certain topics just seem to keep popping up.  

Like scissoring.  

This is about the 30th question I've had from someone about scissoring within the last few months.

And guess what?

Every single person who's asked me about scissoring has been male.

Shocker, that.

But you know what?  Let's do it.  Let's talk about scissoring.  
Put this thing to bed.

So, first of all, what is scissoring?  

What does it mean 'to scissor'?

Wikianswers has the answer!

"The term scissor, which is often used as verb (scissoring), is a sex position between lesbians. It is generally shown as two partners interlocking their legs with their heads 180 degrees apart while their vaginas are touching. In practice, the torsos of the women are often closer together, to the point of being close enough to kiss."

Thanks, Wikianswers!
(by joran van der sloot///)

Just to be sure of my definition of scissoring, I asked Cory, the homeless man who comes around the bakery, about it.

Me:  (handing over bribe of hot peanut butter cookie)  Hey, Cory, can I ask you something?

Cory:  Shoot, honeybuns.

Me:  What do you think the term "scissoring" means?"

Cory:  (guffaws)  Scissoring!  You at work!  Get you fired!

Me:  C'mon.

Cory:  Ok.  Scissoring is when, like, two women are fucking - excuse me, making love - and they, like, rub their coochies together.  Like, grind on each other and shit.  All nasty.

Awesome. 


Now we're all on the same page. 
Scissoring is when two women press their genitals together and rub for sexual satisfaction.


Looks like this:
Now, Jason, believe it or not, I don't watch a lot of porn.  
Like, almost never.  
It's not because I'm against porn; I'm heavily, heavily pro-porn.  I have no problem with porn.  Go porn!

I just wish I liked it.  
Porn does almost nothing for me.  It's kind of a tragedy.  

So I haven't seen assloads of porn.  
But I have seen porn where two women scissor one another.  And I went, "Really?"
[via lesfemmes]

Apparently, people think lesbians do this on a regular basis.

I hate to break it to you, Jason, but in all my years of experience, and having had a few *ahem* sexual partners...I've scissored with a woman exactly 3 times.

The first time, it was a joke.  
My girlfriend-at-the-time and I had just watched our first porn with scissoring.  I said, "We have to try this.  Maybe we're missing out on something good!"  and we scissored. 

We got naked, got on the bed, and, giggling the whole time, awkwardly got ourselves in position.  Then we tried to grind.  

I laughed so hard I fell off the bed.  
Nothing happened.
[via hellogirls]
Fast-forward a few years.  
I'm older and more experienced.  I see another porn and go, "Oh, yeah, scissoring!"  
I tried it with a new girlfriend.  Gave it the ol' college try. 

I mean, we really. tried. to get off.

It was ridiculous.  
We gave up and fucked like normal lesbians.
[via b0ne]

The third time I tried scissoring, it was because Tawnya got this phenomenal Victorian sex-positions pop-up book for her birthday.   

There was a lithograph of two women scissoring, and as I stared at the page, I said, "Jesus.  Apparently women have been doing this for hundreds of years - maybe thousands!  This is history!  I'm a shitty lesbian.  I really should try harder."

So I attacked CJ and forced her to scissor me.  

Me:  (panting) Anything?

CJ:  No.  Keep trying.  Press down harder.

Me:  I'm thirsty.



Nothing gratifying has ever happened to me while scissoring.  
 (by Parker Fitzgerald)
It's not something I even think about.
Ever.

And I since I sometimes sleep around a little bit *coughcough*, and no lesbian has ever tried to scissor me (or brought it up, or even joked about it)...I tend to think scissoring is pretty much something that only women in porn do, for male audiences.

Maybe because male audiences miiiiight have a problem understanding sex when both sets of genitals aren't touching at all times.  

Maybe scissoring makes sense to men because, well, what are the lesbians doing?  
They're pushing their crotches together.  'As if ' they were having sex.
[via nataliedee.com]
Don't get me wrong - I know a couple dykes who say they've scissored with successful results.  
But even they say it's not worth the effort involved.

A novelty, at best.
[via lesfemmes]
Ok, Jason?

Homogirls, help Jason out and weigh in, here.
[via mymuffinroared]
Do you scissor?

Am I missing out on something spectacular?

119 comments:

  1. Just the idea of doing this with a girl makes me want to giggle hysterically. I can't imagine doing this in bed and taking it seriously. I'm already ridiculously hard to get off. This would just kill it.

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  2. Far too much effort!

    Everyone I've been with keeps it simple. I've pretty much convinced myself it's just one of those lesbian myths that we throw out to the straight world to confuse them.

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  3. I have never done it nor felt like trying it, and never have had any of my lovers suggest it. I’m pretty sure that the popularity is hugely exaggerated. However, I believe that if one found the idea of the scissor to be the hottest thing on earth then it probably would work wonders. But, alas, the thought of doing it does nothing for me…

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  4. Hmm...I'll admit, I've tried it. Only because neither my partner nor I really knew much about lesbian sex when we started our relationship. So what did I do? I watched porn. And saw people scissoring!
    And it was a fail (at least for me). Worked for her, but it was the most awkward thing in the world. THERE'S JUST NO COMFORTABLE WAY TO BE IN THAT POSITION!!! But hey, it was amusing.

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  5. never even tried it, it looks stupid. I mean your clits wouldn't even hit anything, its like clit outerspace.

    I do however practice frottage.

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  6. Too good!
    I just found you by way of Squirty who dropped you an award. Come on...Ad a follow button for the goobers like me who rely on it. Pretty please.

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  7. I tried it once with my girlfriend because we were both curious to see what it would feel like, and it was absolutely uncomfortable and not pleasurable.

    Basically, queer girls like to grind (yeah, what Julia said: frottage!). But scissoring is not a realistic position. That shit's only found in fake lesbian porn.

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  8. Never tried it. After watching an episode of South Park (you know the one), I suggested it to my girlfriend to spice up our sex life. She informed me that she'd tried it once before and that it accomplished nothing. She suggested getting a new dildo instead. It ended up being a great choice.

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  9. I, like you, thought this was the "right" way to have lesbian sex. It is fucking ridiculous and no fun at all. There are *plenty* of other, more fun ways to have sex. Period.

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  10. I done it a few times...awkward getting into postion, awkward getting out and let's not forget the all important risk of injury. There are going to be times you want those legs wide and if you pull a muscle trying to scissor you're going to miss so many great opportunities =)

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  11. Once. She was a great scissorer (...) and had a great time while I was like meh.
    Then she fucked me in reward of my patience and being a good girl who didn't laugh until she was done.
    Reward was worth it.

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  12. Scissoring is awesome. Do it all the time. Don't find it difficult in the least. I get off almost every single time.

    And what is the "normal" way to fuck, my sapphic sisters? Using the hands?

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  13. AHHHHH!! Everyone else who thinks "undercoverpunk" is a dude, raise your hand! Hah, thought so, too. Who else would ask that?

    Anyway, sissoring is certainly man perpetuated but I'm sure it could work. I haven't done it personally because I just can't stand to look like that big of a dork. I also think for men who watch porn (every man I know) there's a whole thing with the stripper shoes that plays into the sissoring also. No "real" lesbian would wear those shoes while attempting that sex act. We love other women, thus we would never try to poke their eyes out while fucking poorly.

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    1. I've done it multiple times with an ex of mine & only once were we successful before we broke up, which was pretty disappointing because when we finally got it right it was pretty amazing. I have yet to try with someone else because, alas, it isn't popular & quiet difficult to get just right. Even when you both have the right body type, just latching on correctly then figuring how to move together is pretty difficult. If you do manage to get everything right it can be alot of fun, but it's not for everyone.
      Resources: my personal experiences

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  14. HaHa! I love scissoring! My gf does it for me, as she doesn't get off that way, but yeah, I'll take it any night of the week.

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  15. Read my blog, dumbass. I mean, "anonymous." It's called a hyper-link and you click on it. I am a lesbian SEPARATIST.

    "Fucking like normal lesbians" is a bullshit thing to say. End.

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  16. I personally have never scissored in my entire lesbian life.
    ...i might have to try it sometime to see if it works >.>

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  17. I like scissoring-- but at the same time, it takes switching positions for me to get off. I think I'll like it less the older and more crotchety I become.

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  18. Well, the scissoring as the way straight porn tell us about it might not be much worthwhile for many folks, but I certainly get off it as the wikianswers describe it "In practice, the torsos of the women are often closer together, to the point of being close enough to kiss"

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  19. i do it sometimes, but not the way where your heads are on opposite sides of the bed and you are sort of crab walking in order to get friction going while attempting not to kick each other in the face. that's just silly.

    you need to use gravity to your advantage. have one girl lie on her back with her legs open, and then the other girl also opens her legs and gets on top, rocking her hips to grind her pussy into the bottom girl's.

    or, modify this slightly so that you can lean over and kiss her.

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  20. I actually really enjoy scissoring, but it took a long time to find the right partner.

    My wife and I are equal height which helps (alot) and it usually comes along before the rest of it...it's like...acrobatic foreplay. :)

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    1. I agree, much like foreplay with a lot of energy expended! I love it!

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  21. I've found scissoring with one girl sort of above and leaned forward to be more of an erotic way to make out (the wiki version, not the heads and tails stretched out way). Physiologically I've never had a partner that was that flexible and "fit" well enough to get some persistent contact and friction going on but I'll concede it's possible. From my experience it's the labia shields that are the problem since they cushion too much. Double dildos seems like a related "no, most lesbians don't actually do that" myth too. Does anyone use one of those things? They're pretty intimidating.

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  22. I've only done it once, but I freakin loved it, even though she laughed at me at first. She got more into it when she saw how much it was completely blowing my mind. We were making out, too, both sitting up.

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  23. I have not tried scissoring before but would like to.

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  24. Hahaha I was asked about this a while ago (by a gay male friend) and didn't know what the hell it was! I just sort of laughed vaguely then Googled it when I got home. Never done it, no.

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  25. WHHAAAT? I didn't realize so many people were anti-scissor. I actually like it. Maybe not as the main attraction, but def. good for foreplay.
    But I agree with anonymous above who mentioned "using gravity to your advantage". The traditional way is BORING. But when the angles get switched up a bit...it's pretty hot.

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  26. It took a few tries but I've gotten it to work. Note: any tiny bit of stubble is MURDER.

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  27. Honestly, my ex was always trying to do this to me and.....*yawn*. I would just get bored and tired and start falling asleep, which would of course lead to no sleep at all, because once a lesbian is ready to fight, no one sleeps.

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  28. i tried it as a joke. but nothing happened. PORN DOESNT DO ANYTHING FOR ME EITHER. That being said reading certain things can get me hot and bothered in a hot minute.

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  29. I've tried it a couple times, and it was fun, but not worth the effort. Too much re-angling.

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  30. Wow, who knew so many lezzies were against scissoring! The "traditional" position you see in porn with the heads so far apart is lame to me, but I've got nothing bad to say about tribadism in general. It can be great. I think not relaxing and trying to get in the "perfect" position is what ruins it for people. Like a PP said--use gravity to your advantage.

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  31. Yea I definitely have scissored, but not in the horizontal way. I didn't even know that existed, I just thought the term referred to intertwining your legs so that both clits are stimulated by the other's thigh. That always got me off the best and was the main way we had sex. I've also done it where we were both sitting up and kissing, which I found pretty hot. The link below is what I thought scissoring was...

    http://www.answers.com/topic/tribadism

    It seems kind of silly to be so far away from the rest of your partner's body...I find it so much hotter for one person to be on top of the other.

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  32. I've doing some tribbing, but none of that horizontal shit. Definitely takes a lot of work, but it's fun to mix it up.

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  33. I imagine it has something to do with what kind of pressure you like on your clit. I've never had the chance to try it but as someone who grew up masturbating by humping things I imagine it would be fun!

    Ladies who do or don't, any correlation with how much sensation you get on the strap end of a strap-on?

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  34. Tribadism is wonderful and joyous and evidence that God loves all the little lesbians. Scissoring can get results, but it takes a lot of communication and fine-tuning for both people to get anywhere. The last time I tried it, it was with a girl who was bendy and strong and really excited... but selfishly only got herself off, and bruised my clit.

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  35. my current girlfriend initiates it sometimes and while it is fun (if you're reeeeally turned on ahead of time,) i don't think either of us have expected to get off... it's usually just a pit stop on the way to orgasm town.

    i don't always like it, but sometimes. and it DEFINITELY doesn't work if you're not soaking wet.

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  36. AND AND AND... it's really goddamn awkward if your grinding is out of sync.

    but if that's not the case, it works.

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  37. I do it on occasion with my gf. We have fun, I think she really likes it. Like to feel me, if you know what I mean? We have done it maybe 7-8 times?

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  38. OHHH. Scissoring. Is THAT what it's called? I have been totally unaware of the whole porn scissoring thing because androcentric porn does NOTHING for me either.
    I don't really see that as any kind of tragedy.

    Yeah I have tried "scissoring" a couple of times but I never had any expectation that it could get us off. Realities of female anatomy you know.
    We tried it in the jetted tub. Hands touching, hot water, eyes connected, steamy mirror, quiet. Twilight. Sexy.....
    then we got out of the tub and fucked like normal lesbians. Can you see me smirking here. So Damn good!

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  39. I have had a lot of gay men ask me about this. I've never done it. If we're both naked, then I want to have the rest of her body within reaching distance.

    And in response to the anonymous poster regarding "real" lesbians not wearing shoes to bed, I just want to say that shoe fetishes are very common... just as my girlfriend lifting up my skirt or dress and fucking me the moment we walk through the door... is common.

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  40. lurker is totally correct...it can work if A) there is total arousal on both ladies end B) there is plenty of wetness and C) at least 1 of the 2 of you have to be both flexible and strong...if these are all in play it can be fun and it can be possible for both of you to "enjoy" yourselves!!

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  41. You learn something new every day. I've been a lesbian for a ridiculously long time (well, my whole LIFE, but out for 23 years? 24? something like that.) and I've never even HEARD of scissoring! I've not seen it in porn either, but I don't watch tons of it. Anyway, as soon as my gf gets home, we're gonna try it and see how it works out!

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  42. I posted this over at autostraddle on your "don't call me a dyke" post, but I want to be sure you get it!

    "Hi there.

    A.) I don't know how lucky I am to have stumbled upon your blog, and I'm aware that you're guest blogging here... yeah, I followed you here... not creepy AT ALL...

    ANYWAY

    You are HILARIOUS. I love it. Your writing style is great too.

    B.) I NEVER use the N word, I don't call people Jews, or say fa---t (see I can't even write it) when referring to homosexuals, and I never will... but one thing I am VERY guilty of, is referring to things as "gay" instead of stupid. How's THAT for terrible!? It might be worse! Or at least equal to... HOWEVER, being 24 myself, "gay" is just the slang I was raised on. I know it's no excuse... and I am trying super hard lately to STOP saying it, but sometimes it escapes... like a snort during a laugh, or a tear during Oprah.

    I think it's ALL disrespectful. BUT, that's just me. I try to always be very polite, and nice, and not offend people. Some people are easily offended.

    Anyway, I'm bookmarking the SHIT out of your blog, and probably this one too (depending on what I read when I post this), and I hope to read much more from you.

    -Amy"

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  43. This is the first time, Effing Dyke, that I feel "WTF?!?!" whilst reading your blog. What's this whole talibanism regarding sexual positions?! Who said lesbians don't scissor (or enjoy it)? I do! Not all the time, but once in a while it's great...I'm not going into too many details because it would get graphic, but I'll just say that this is a vote NO on your post and the acception that all lesbians behave the same. You suck Effing Dyke.

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  44. I am so completely devastated for all the lesbians who have not tried (or not successfully tried) scissoring. Though the term does imply the least effective, imo, way of doing this. Wikianswers describes the primary act for me, more like the domoinant position you'd be in if you were using a strap on. Almost every single time my girlfriend and I have sex we do it and every single time one, if not both of us will get off. I think success lies in flexibility and wetness. I find it is probably the most intimate way to sleep with a woman.

    Also, I've never heard a man talk about this position and I've rarely seen it in porn. By no means have I been sheltered in terms of the kind of men I know or the level of porn I watch. Scissoring just felt natural.

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  45. Scissoring is AWESOME! I can get off SO quickly. Agreed, it is a lot of work, but it's worth it.

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  46. Wow, apparently some people have very strong feelings about scissoring! I'm in your camp, the "wtf, people get off this way?!" camp. Also, I think it's really dumb that straight people think this is all we do. I tried it a few times and found it pretty comical. (Also, a turn-on, because getting naked with a hot lady and rubbing genitalia is a turn-on even if it IS comical!) But it's definitely not a part of my sex repertoire.

    So I've learned something from reading the comments... apparently people actually scissor and actually get off from it! I shouldn't be surprised, because well, I just talked to a gal yesterday who gets off from her shoulder being punched (no joke).

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  47. ok so not all people get off on scissoring and some do but easy ONEEYEDGIRL on the "you suck effing dyke" comment...no need to be mean or volatile….because I for one can tell you that many straight people think that this IS what lesbians do (because of what they have seen on porn (especially guys)) and to bridge this question in a queer blog and see what the answer may or may not be is great!! And plus effing dykes is hilariously comical in her questioning/bridging of the subject so easy no need to be mean!

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  48. Scissoring is amazing if your both into it, really wet, and in more of a missionary position. Maybe what I'm describing isn't scissoring, maybe it's called something else, because I've heard similar things called tribadism and frottage, not sure what the difference is.

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  49. Take it easy oneeyedgirl. This is just a conversation with give and take; everyone here is only saying what is true for them and what they think about it. That doesn't mean we should go straight to "effing dykes you suck". It is DIALOGUE. Fun stimulating, let's get out of our own head, dialogue. Just participate and tell your truth without obliterating those who think differently than you. Great provocation effing dykes. What a great conversation you started.I am always back for more.

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  50. Why yes, I do do a form of this, but it's called tribadism. Go wiki it- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tribadism However, I do have a vertical hod piercing (google a pic of it) which makes it awesome for me and may lady friend. However I dont "scissor" it is more like hetero missionary position. AKA- The Ladykiller.

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  51. Alright I'm taking the big risk of getting trounced and beat up here by coming into this convo as a queer/bisexual woman and admitting i'm a lil sad scissoring isn't "real". I've watched a lot of porn (not the commercial crap, much but wait, is Abby Winters commercial or at all real?) and this LOOKED quite hot. I know that my anatomy personally, and my clit, wouldn't be able to get off this way but the idea always appealed to me. Granted, my brain is more straight-male-thinking and my number of female sex partners is a whopping 3.

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  52. My girlfriend and I do something kind of akin to scissoring I suppose, but more like grinding? Like our um genitals are touching but I'm usually on top of her? We usually laugh a little trying to get "into position," but a little bit of laughter is never a bad thing. I don't think I could do the :<>: scissoring though. Like where both people are on their backs XD

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  53. oh my god i love scissoring it's so delicious. the feeling is amazing of two wet cunts together....

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  54. When I was a wee lesbian I did this with my first girlfriend....it was awkward but in the back of my mind I found it kind of hot.

    Fast forward to the present. My gf and I will in fact do something akin to this position but not as a means to get off, rather as a way to get more turned on. I also agree with the everyone saying to use gravity. That being said I would NEVER do this with a random sex partner or one night stand.

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  55. This is strange..I have done some version of this with three different sex partners. I had no idea the technical term was scissoring, or that it was used in "lesbian" porn a lot and considered something no one actually does. One of the people I did this with frequently was a guy who was trans that I used to hook up with. He would totally come, everytime. I had a harder time coming from this with him, because of the position we used, but it turned me on alot and I liked feeling him come against me.

    Another girlfriend and I did the classic scissoring position and both came, at the same time.

    Me and my Arizona-dyke girlfriend used a position where my legs would be all the way up, practically over my head, and she would press into me with her cunt. I actually came like this, and totally loved it.

    I never knew I was so weird in liking the feel of another pussy against mine. I didn't find it hot "in the back of my mind" and I am not a "wee lesbian". I found it HOT, period, the end. Yet another reason to feel alienated from the general dyke population.

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  56. I loved this post. I've fallen in love with your sense of humor, playfulness and frankness (and I'm not gay, except I wish I were - put me down as unknown since I've never tried).

    Affectionately, Charlie

    (I took Charlie as my online name since I LOVE boy names for girls)

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  57. I wanted to try it with my last gf but she wasn't keen on the idea. She'd tried it with an ex and just found it difficult and generally not very pleasurable. I don't know if she was put off the idea of trying again because it's something she'd only done with her ex or not. It's something I'd definitely like to try again with the right lady! As others have mentioned, when i think about it it's less horizontal, torsos being that far apart doesn't feel right to me, not so intimate.

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  58. i have yet to scissor. even in my limited experiences with women, none of them have ever suggested it. one friend joked about it. ONCE. i want to try it. it might be awesome if there was some kind of a flat vibrator we could put between us. otherwise...ehh.
    i think mostly i just want to try it because i want my vag to be that close to her vag. only it seems like the only way it'd be remotely comfy is if we just shaved together.

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  59. Woah. What is an Arizona-dyke girlfriend?

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  60. I didn't read the other comments but I wanna say that this position/act is also called tribbing. It's never really worked for me without hurting the other person but I watched women produced porn where the models "do it" and had a result. If you say porn is fake, I don't think that this particular model's orgasm is something a normal human being could fake...

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  61. Yea...the idea of another pussy on mine is pretty hot...no matter what position we are in.

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  62. whoa whoa so much negativity! I like scissoring, A LOT, and I thought other vagina-bearing people did too..until I suggested it to a new lover and got LAUGHED AT. all i'm saying is I think it's ruhl hot and it gets me off more consistently than anything else, believe it or not, and if someone suggests it don't make them feel like they're less lesbian or whatever, because that sucks.

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  63. I've scissored with my ex like 2 times... Did nothing for me, but seemed she likes it...
    Well, maybe she was some phenomena...

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  64. A girl tried to get me to do this once, and I just couldn't take it seriously. I like scissoring.... but only when it involves the girl scissoring my face.
    Done and done

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  65. I think it's hot and delicious and I love it.

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  66. While I think male sexual preoccupation with the idea of women scissoring is a leftover from bad porn and South Park, and I have also only scissored as an experiment, I still think it is a valid sex act, just not in the context you're talking about.

    Perhaps it would be helpful to recall it is a form of tribadism, which has (so-called) legit lesbian backgrounds. Furthermore, I think tribadism is the kind of sex act engaged in not for a quick get off but for a long, steamy session. Think tantric.

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  67. My girlfriend and I tried this with our clothes on, you know, just to practice. We both laughed until we cried at the ridiculousness of it, then we began wrestling which led to some pretty awesome sex.

    We're trying again tonight. Heh.

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  68. my girl and i love scissoring. there is nothing like feeling each other's orgasms, often at the same time. as long as you get the right amount of wetness (a lot) and pressure, you're all set. can be funny if you fall out of sync, but what fun is sex if you're not smiling or laughing at all? anyway, it's just another way to enjoy each other's bodies.

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  69. I'm adding this comment because now there are 69. You're welcome.

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  70. Ruining the 69, sorry, because I love scissoring.

    It takes working at, though. Our first scissor-gasms were a recent result (after, say, eight months of testing the waters. Or scissors). And it is GREAT foreplay. Just don't be afraid to use fingers to move things out of the way so you can get right in there.

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  71. i cum that way all the time. Its aaaawesome!

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  72. Are you all kidding me?! My girlfriend and I scissor aalllllaallallllll the time. AND use double ended dildos. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

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  73. I get off easily while tribbing, but scissoring like in the pic...where's the fun? I want weight above me or a body beneath me, not to be attached at two inches of skin.

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  74. Vaginal Slip n slide.
    Soo good. 'nuff said.

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  75. I always believed scissoring to be a myth. I mean, it seems awkward and kind of doesn't make sense. Most lesbian porn is filmed for male audiences anyway, right? It would make sense that there is a lot of scissoring in lesbian porn... But then again, I've never really tried it. I probably shouldn't knock it.

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  76. i have scissored and it was great... it's nothing i do on a regular basis, but trust me.. it's really nice having two wet & aroused vaginas rubbing against each other.. i'm a pretty sexual person and i think it depends on how comfortable you are with experimenting new things than to just stick to "traditional sex because this is what i know..", plus, u can never exactly imitate from pornstars, i just get the idea, and do it however it works for me. :)

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  77. scissoring is great!!

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  78. Oh, and some others above have also made it clear that they partake in the missionary position of tribadism.

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  79. The problem here is the description of the act. It's called TRIBADISM, and does NOT ALWAYS REFLECT A SCISSORING MOTION. That's why so many lesbians say they don't scissor; it's because they don't partake in that aspect of it. Wikipedia has good information on this; and if you don't trust them, you can always go to Google Books and read up on Tribadism. In fact, Wikipedia uses sources from Google Books about it. Tribadism is actually popular among lesbians. If you are a lesbian, you most likely trib; it's just usually in the missionary position, or grinding your vulva against your partner's thigh, buttocks or stomach. Normal lesbians do that.

    I don't see how anyone could not get off from rubbing her clit against her partner's clit. When you're both wet, it is the most pleasing and intimate thing ever; you can just have sex without worrying about placement of fingers.

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  80. The problem here is the description of the act. It's called TRIBADISM, and does NOT ALWAYS REFLECT A SCISSORING MOTION. That's why so many lesbians say they don't scissor; it's because they don't partake in that aspect of it. Wikipedia has good information on this; and if you don't trust them, you can always go to Google Books and read up on Tribadism. In fact, Wikipedia uses sources from Google Books about it. Tribadism is actually popular among lesbians. If you are a lesbian, you most likely trib; it's just usually in the missionary position, or grinding your vulva against your partner's thigh, buttocks or stomach. Normal lesbians do that.

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  81. And it's not awkward at all -- the missionary aspect. Really, I don't see how anyone could not get off from rubbing her clit against her partner's clit. When you're both wet, it is the most pleasing and intimate thing ever; you can just have sex without worrying about placement of fingers. And, personally, I would rather have something rubbing against my clit (the most common way for women to orgasm) than something rubbing in my vagina. The thing is...society has gotten so caught up in "only penetration counts as real sex," so much so that gays and lesbians feel they have to penetrate each other in order for it to count as "real sex" too. To my fellow lesbians out there, Google "Tribadism" and find out what it really means. Then try "scissoring" in the missionary position; my bet is...most of you already have done it. Either that, or you just stick to two sex acts (fingering and oral).

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  82. Me and my girlfriend scissor a lot and although it is not an orgasm-reaching position, we both really enjoy the intimacy of it and the "exchange of fluids". I think it is a great position with the lights off. The position can be not very flattering at times.

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  83. Scissoring kicks ass. I haven't gotten off on it, but I came close, and I have certainly gotten my girlfriend off on it. I only found out tonight that it's something lesbians supposedly scoff at. Well, I had no idea. I do it because I want to, and because it feels great. Genital-to-genital contact doesn't need to be a strictly hetero thing .

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  84. I love scissoring my girlfriend! *drool*

    It's the eye contact does it for me, oh, and also how much we want eachother after I've been teasing her in public all day.

    Starts off as a joke, lot's of giggling, but then gets pretty intense, fast.

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  85. Female Bonobo's scissor. And in Arabic, although there is no word for gay or straight, women who have sex with each other were called grinders. Normal lesbians grind, right? Or is it just the Arab lesbians? Lol.

    I appreciate what 'greatshow' said about the problem being with the definition of tribadism and scissoring. And the reality that many of us scissor in the missionary position, or grind your vulva against your partner's thigh.

    I'd add: especially grinding your vulva against your partners thigh so that both clits are rubbing against each other's thighs.

    I guess this is uncommon in porn because the camera would have a hard time getting in there and seeing anything. The porn scissor position allows the male camera and the male viewer to get in and see two vaginas at the same time. (ps: I like that spell check thinks the plural of vagina is incorrect!)

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  86. We don't scissor crazy-often, but when we do, it's hot and I definitely get off on it. It's so warm and soft and slippery!

    and ☆★☆★☆★☆★☆★, you're totally right about the vaginas not being correct according to spell check, it thinks the correct word is vaginae.

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  87. My gf and I scissor (although I think of it as grinding since one of us is on top, thereby not fitting the wikianswers definition of scissoring). At least one of us gets off every time we grind. I agree that it does require some re-angling as well as strength and moderate flexibility. But it's worth it. I completely disagree that scissoring/grinding/what have you is an attempt to simulate straight sex, not to mention this is a relatively weak argument anyway since you could make the exact same claim (heterosexual simulation) about finger fucking.
    Lesbians do grind/scissor and many ladies I know enjoy it a lot.

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  88. nooo way! ha. i'm weirder than i thought.
    my gf of 1+ years always scizzor! seriously.. like couple times a week. i think it's amazing.. even to say, i get off every time. i tend to get off visually, so, seeing her on top , or bottom .. is fucking eye candy - and feels SO good. penetration doesnt really do it for me, and when my gf and i are orgasming together; yes, while scissoring. that is the beeneeez. grinding rules. and i totally disagree that it is simulating strait sex. - there would have to be a strap on for that.

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  89. As long as you use plenty of lube, and you're both very flexible (I was a gymnast for 6 years, and can still do a split ;)

    I have only been able to successfully carry this out with my current partner - my wifey, and we LOVE it. No one else in the past was flexible enough to do it.
    But I agree with the posters who commented to use gravity to your advantage - one grrrl has to be on top, and the "bottom" grrrl has to raise up which ever leg is more flexible to allow access, for maximum friction. ;) Use lube, even something a little stimulating like KY intense. And, if your labia are getting in the way, just move them....its a great position because you can make out at the same time and touch her body - it's really yummy!

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  90. I love scissoring, it is really my favourite way to come although it only works a couple of times. Sometimes we just do it a bit with my girlfriend and we switch to something else. It doesn't work as much for her as t does for me but she still loves the closeness.

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  91. In my experience scissoring is not a usual position, but there was one time when it felt fucking amazing. We had just got done fucking but were still horny as hell, but we needed to wait a bit for the engines to cool down to start again. That said, we were extremely wet and just sort of happened into the position, and the sensation of our swollen clits rubbing together while we were wet was pretty fucking awesome. However, that's the one and only time that ever happened. The other two or three times has been for jokes or just didn't raise a ruckus.

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  92. I'm the first woman my girl has been with, so, out of curiosity, she's suggested we try it. I just end up laughing hysterically. Because, really? I mean... I think we've somehow contorted ourselves into positions that were somehow similar to scissoring, and that was fine, but I REFUSE to actually attempt proper scissoring. No, ma'am.

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  93. We tried scissoring, and it was totally awesome! NOT sexy, but we fell out of bed laughing several times and we had a lot of fun (and actual sex after). So... fun foreplay, I guess. Possibly more work than it's worth....

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  94. i know i'm late to the game on these comments... but i agree with undercoverpunk: "Scissoring is awesome. Do it all the time. Don't find it difficult in the least. I get off almost every single time. And what is the 'normal' way to fuck, my sapphic sisters? Using the hands?"

    in my experience (yes, lesbian experience, plenty of it), scissoring (not the weird 180-degree way) is actually one of my favorites, really hot, and i have a very near 100% getting off record with it.

    and the suggestion that there is one "normal" way to lesbian fuck is... in a word: lame. my lesbian sex life is awesome enough that there is no normal, just lots of different fun awesome things to do with girls, and we're always discovering more new surprises!

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  95. I like the scissor position. It works well for me.

    And I, too, not male, don't know what everybody means saying "actual sex" or "normal sex" ... =/ What am I missing?

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  96. I scissored once as a baby dyke, and thought the sensation was really awesome, but there wasn't really active grinding, just feeling the wetness. (I discovered it through a dyke novel from the 70s; the one straight-centered lesbian porn I saw had finger fucking with Lee-press-on-nail hands, yikes)


    I don't think of tribadism, even with legs scissored, as 'scissoring', but that's certainly a pretty common sex move for me.

    My most recent girlfriend and I had a chaise lounge chair that was angled perfectly for genital to genital contact, and I found that so stimulating that I chose not to be on top, as I'd come pretty much instantly, which spoiled the fun of building up excitement. That felt a lot more natural, because we could kiss/hold each other at the same time.

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  97. I ignorantly thought the desire to scissor is in most lesbians, so I was surprised to see so many against it and so many who've said they've never even heard of it. I'm bisexual, so my acclimation to hetero sex influences that, I'm sure. While having sex with my first girlfriend, I had a very strong urge to scissor in the beginning and after we'd been having sex for a while, I initiated the act. She loved it, and I think it was the closeness and the motion that was so hot.

    We were together for a year and a half, and as we progressed in our sex life, scissored infrequently. It wasn't even a thought in my mind after a while, so sometimes when she pulled me into position, I'd think, "Oh, I forgot about this!" Whereas when we started having sex, it was a very strong desire stemming from my previous notions of sex.

    While scissoring isn't a great method of getting off for me, I do enjoy the rhythm and fitting with my partner. I've never tried it with a double dildo, but it's something I think would be fun and intend to explore.

    All the women who say they've laughed and ridicule scissoring are being hypocritical. Saying it's a stupid act because of the heterosexual overtones and not acknowledging the possibilities is dichotomous--you're saying it's silly because you're lesbians and it's difficult to get clit on clit, indirectly reinforcing the notion that only a penis in a vagina qualifies as real sex. As in, "this is ridiculous because it's a simulation of hetero sex, not sex." And because it's hard to scissor to climax, it's not a realistic sex act. That's kind of akin to saying it's not an orgasm unless there's ejaculation.

    I guess what I'm saying is that it seems like a lot of lesbians look at scissoring the way men (gay and straight) look at lesbians finger-banging.

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  98. it's a lovely feeling of being completely close to my gf for sure...very intimate. and notttt trying to get graphic (but i will), she gets reeeallly wet and if both of us are positioning right, our clits rub together and...well, it's just very enjoyable, let's put it that way. heh! so yeah. I've never gotten off on it either, but it sure is fun!

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  99. I used to with my ex. And it was fucking awesome. It might be because near-everything she did was really hot. Couldn't ever climax from it. BUT STILL. You need to be really turned on, but it can definitely work. Especially if you cut the self-conscious giggling and relax.

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  100. oh my god YOU CAN TOTALLY SCISSOR! YES it takes effort but it is also AWESOME. cuz then your clits line up just right and its like you're both getting off and all your bizness is up on each other. it is totally the best and i might even swear by it. the key is COMMUNICATION. cuz otherwise how the hell are you going to know if your clit is making contact with her magical button. Booooo it's not a myth. it is a win. a BIG FAT LESBIAN WIN. (i am not a straight man).

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  101. I've done it n fuckin loved it!!!! Maybe cause I'm bi or just missing what "real" lesbian sex is?!

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  102. i have scissored with my girlfriend and we do it all the time sure at first it was awkward but now its amazing

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  103. What the hell is 'real lesbian sex'? Does it even matter how we get each other off?! My first girlfriend and I tried the 'scissor' position a few times... Much hilarity ensued but not much pleasure. We soon abandoned that notion and got back to good old humping of thighs. I totally agree that the actual 'scissor' position is crap and almost certainly for good camera angles in porn, like a previous poster said. What me and my girlf did most of all to actually orgasm was humping thighs and that's just no good for porn! I think the more upright-tribbing-while-kissing-full-body-contact type is SUPER HOT! It's really intimate and totally orgasm-enducing! So yay for non-scissory scissoring!

    As for this fucking like real lesbians... meh... do what feels goooood!!! =)

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  104. Me and my girl do it all the time... she gets off wether im on top rubbing on her or shes "riding" me.... extremely hot position if it works. Great view.

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  105. Quite hot if you do it right but not well not with yall laying with your heads at opposite directions? I mean what the hell thats kinda akward...

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  106. First of all, I don't watch porn, but I couldn't disagree with you more about scissoring! I love it!!!!!!!! Don't be grossed out, but I'm a straight woman with bi tendencies, who, as a kid, used to scissor with my older sister for 5 years, and I had a sure-fire orgasm every single time! I would be on my back or on my stomach, with my head at the the foot of the bed, and she would be on her side, with her head on the pillow, and we'd have our legs opened in a "V", and we'd slide into each-other until our pussies touched, one of her legs fully under me, her other leg fully over me, while mine were clamped onto both sides of her, too. Then, each of us grabbing onto a leg of the other, we'd start pumping and grinding, our slits and clits and asses all mashing up against each-other... You have to wet and gooey to start this, so sometimes we'd hump pillows to masturbate first, then roll into a hot scissors trib and grind the hell out of each-other, until we came and came and came.... We'd be hot & sweaty and just lay there, our pussies twitching and dripping... We were kids, and didn't know anything! It was all just instinctive... I had no idea it was even sex, let alone lesbian sex, let alone lesbian incest... I just looked at it as masturbation on each-others pussies instead of our pillows...

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  107. My girlfriend and I scissor regularly and we do it so we're face to face, so that we can kiss. It took a while for us to understand how to get into that position (we're new to the whole relationship thing) but when we worked out how to be "close" as we like to call it now, we loved it!!! It feels amazing and we get off all the time. Scissoring is now one of our favourite things to do. We don't do the whole facing apart from each other "image" that people seem to associate with scissoring. Its so intimate because we're face to face. Its might not be something most lesbians do, but we do it :D x

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  108. I just realized how brilliant it is that you shrink the words in parentheses. What a delightful relationship between content and form!!

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  109. It is really hard to get into the right position and it hurts a bit in the legs, but when it did work, I have never orgasmed so hard

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  110. never heard of any of this. read this for the education. hope you dont mind. however, mother was an english teacher and raised us in the catholic church. i also took a few years of latin in school. vagina is a latin word as most anatomical designations are. as in many languages, many words are classified as either male or female and their endings in plural will be different. ergo, the plural form of vagina (as one would expect is a feminine word) is indeed vagina. same is true for antenna / antennae. i now know im getting really old because i knew nothing of this or any controversy regarding this. thank you for the ed. love

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  111. something must have happened above because the plural form of vagina did not come out as intended. please excuse. it is indeed vaginae. love.

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  112. I tried scissoring ONCE with my ex. Her response? "What are you doing?" To which I slowly pulled my legs away from her's and commenced in normal lesbian sex. I have no desire to try it again, as the only benefit being-that our lady parts were touching- can be found in another position. And this one has more than one benefit. *grin* Including the same parts still touching and hitting the clit at the same time.

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  113. Ok, interesting.
    See I am NOT a lesbian, but everybody thinks I am because I am a transgender guy. Now, I seen that on Wiki and in porn, and thought how can lesbians do that if they have nothing down there? I have unusually huge junk about 2" long so I figured most women can't.
    I would prefer to wait until I fully transition and do it the old fashioned way with a straight girl, or one who at least likes men's penises. Frotting men would work, both have something to work with, but it just would seem a lot of work for women with tiny little deelies.

    So do you girls then just finger and kiss? I honestly do not know what you all do. But it is good to know the truth, that majority of you lesbians don't do scissoring as your usual sexual act.

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  114. I had sex with a partner that was able to get off by scissoring. I didn't but i loved how it felt. To each their own!

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